Creating awareness with the 7 Why exercise

Have you ever asked yourself why do you sometimes do the same mistakes? In your career, love or in life in general?

For example, if you are single often, have you asked yourself, why?

Is it

Because you don’t like anyone?

Because you are dead inside?

Because you are ugly?

Because nobody deserves you?

Because nobody loves you?

Because you are not loveable?

Because you are overweight?

Because you have certain rules you must follow?

Because your boyfriend left you?

Because Because Because!

We are going through too many becauses in life. Whether it’s for love, for money, work, or even health. Think about it, our becauses run our life.

Putting aside your because, how about we dig deeper into your why with a little exercise. The seven whys analysis is an iterative interrogative technique used to explore the cause-and-effect of a particular issue.

The primary goal of the technique is to determine the root cause of a problem by repeating the question.

Before you start, please read the text to the end, and then take a notebook and a pen, and proceed.

Are you ready?

Now try to relax, take a deep breath, exhale and try to clear your mind from the everyday junk. Think about a question. For example, “Why am I always single?” or “Why can’t I keep a job?” or “Why do I always overeat?” etc. State it clearly and loud, and then, close your eyes, and finish the sentence:

Because….

Say the first thing that comes to your mind. Don’t think, just say it. Don’t look for answers, just talk. The first thing that comes to your mind, and then write it down.

Then ask yourself the question “Why is that?” (in relation to your first answer)

And again, write the first thing that comes to your head.

Then ask yourself, the third “Why is that?” (in relation to your previous answer)

Again, write the first thing that comes to your head.

Then ask yourself, the fourth “Why is that?” (in relation to your previous answer)

Again, write the first thing that comes to your head.

Then ask yourself, the fifth “Why is that?” (in relation to your previous answer)

Again, write the first thing that comes to your head.

Then ask yourself, the sixth “Why is that?” (in relation to your previous answer)

Again, write the first thing that comes to your head.

Then ask yourself, the seventh “Why?” (in relation to your previous answer)

Again, write the first thing that comes to your head.

Expect to come up with slightly different answer every time, but with a familiar theme. I’m certain that once you start doing it you will came up with something interesting and surprising even. Tell me, is it something you knew all along? Or is it something new?

Whatever it is, do remember:

With great awareness, transformation is inevitable.

Whatever the answer is, that is your first step to transformation.

You see, deep down most people are afraid to face reality, or to take on responsibility. But I hope with this exercise you will see the truth; you are responsible for your own happiness. And yet, you are not doing anything about it.

How long will you wait before having enough?

Let me know.

Until the next time.

Alexandra

Alexandra’s background is in lecturing, coaching and communications breakthrough. She is an Emotional Intelligence Analyst and an NLP Master Practitioner. In her daily work she empowers and motivates women so they can succeed, grow and achieve extraordinary results for themselves.